Dog training is not for everyone and not every dog owner wants to train their dog, Especially if they are well trained for the most time. They seek help when absolutely needed when in fact getting a trainer early on can help avoid many problem behaviors that occur. Another factor that effects a dogs training is the spouse or partner in the house. What happens when My spouse isn’t supporting training.
ASK YOURSELF WHY
are they frustrated or anxious, overwhelmed, unsure, logistical challenges (like time to train)?
do they understand the importance?
are they afraid of the dog?
do they distrust the training methods?
It is important to understand the why before we start changing the behavior. This applies to both Humans and dogs.
LOGISTICAL CHALLENGES
Make treats easy! Keep a container on a common area table.
Set small, attainable goals! Keep training sessions short and fun.
If something is still not clicking contact a professional trainer for a fresh perspective.
THEY DISTRUST THE TECHNIQUE
Acknowledge the beliefs!
Ask them to try for a certain time with the new method and then you can discuss the outcome.
Show small wins! A small win can help someone see that the training works.
DON’T SEE THE IMPORTANCE
Explain why it’s important to YOU! Explain what YOU feel is important!
Be open about what you want!
Start a conversation! ask what THEY want to see from training, and what they expect to do (or get out of it). Make sure you’re on the same page (or at least similar pages)
FEAR OR BROKEN BONDS
Validate the fear. especially if the dog has harmed them (or someone else)
Repair the bond by having them engage in favorite activities, doing fun stuff, etc.
Don’t push it.
UNSURE/OVERWHELMED
Give them clear, concise instructions for something simple!
Ask for feedback to make sure they actually understand the training and know what to do.
Build confidence!
FRUSTRATED/ANXIOUS
Validate the feelings.
Find out what’s causing the anxiety, whether there are other causes, and what the details are. make sure they know you’re listening!
Identify coping strategies together.
MANAGING EXPECTATIONS
Sometimes humans are physically (or mentally or logistically) unable to participate in the way you want them to
If you truly can’t get their help/support, what can you do?
Prepare for your own frustration.
POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT
Acknowledge small wins.
Give thanks And MAKE IT FUN!
Build on new skills.
If you are really struggling with your spouse and training, contact a professional dog trainer for help.
